Happiness

The day before yesterday,I asked my friend D.T. about his definition of happiness.He responded that this question was rather difficult.Is it difficult?What is the exact meaning of "happiness"?Does it possess similarities with the sense of "belonging" and "security"?Every minute we are likely to encounter this or that problem,how to quench our internal fear and worry?

Wang Ping's case might be a good example,I think.Mature enough,Wang,like a brother,provided me with constructive suggestions whenever I turned to him for help.From this,I opine that maturity may be the killer of our fear and worry for the possible misfortune on the way,for it means the ability of shouldering the responsibility,always being calm in case of big events,and seeking solutions in case of failures.

Only maturity is not adequate.Next we should master is to care our motivation of happiness. I call that "happy elements" which can be either people or things.Let's take Wang's example again.His "happy element" is a girl,also my classmate,whom he wants to know about more and whose faculties he admires to the letter.This is just a specific aspect.To be wider,"happy elements" are the harmonious relationships between us and people or things around-sharing,finding other people's excellence,setting about fulfilling our tasks,and attaining success at the same time.

Recording "happiness" is in a sense a certain kind of "happiness",too;thus,Snow of Xinjiang Uygur Autonomous Region is happy now,and she feels no fatigue.

D.T.'s viewpoint:"Everything should be discussed comparatively.And bitterness is the mother of happiness.If someday you were the daughter of God,everything would be in you hand,but your life would be hideous.We should continue working,studying and living. Yes,it will have troubles here and there,but they are inevitable.Happiness exists in the process of finding solutions to troubles.So,don't be afraid you will lose it.It is like a pendulum: only if it swings upwards can it go downwards,then you are in a position to feel the happy minutes."

(photo from Baidu)